Thursday, May 3, 2007
Men, It's Better to Be Honest Than To Just Disappear
That's what JH wants you to know. Another message from her:
I would just like someone to spread the word that in the early stages it's easier to hear that they are not interested that to have them just disappear. Disappearing leaves you wondering if you did something wrong where if they would just say that they are not interested there would be less second guessing ourselves. If they don't want to hurt feelings then they could say they are getting back with an ex or something.
I was talking to a guy and I decided the connection just wasn't there so I told him that I had fun talking to him but I was going to be exclusive with someone I had been dating. Maybe I shouldn't have lied but he won't know and at least I didn't just disappear.
JH
My thoughts:
Leaving someone hanging is a sick power trip. If you're never going to see a person again, you should let them know.
If you just need space, I say five days is the maximum you should go without communicating with anyone you want to kiss again. Booty Calls defy logic, so time limits don't count there.
I would just like someone to spread the word that in the early stages it's easier to hear that they are not interested that to have them just disappear. Disappearing leaves you wondering if you did something wrong where if they would just say that they are not interested there would be less second guessing ourselves. If they don't want to hurt feelings then they could say they are getting back with an ex or something.
I was talking to a guy and I decided the connection just wasn't there so I told him that I had fun talking to him but I was going to be exclusive with someone I had been dating. Maybe I shouldn't have lied but he won't know and at least I didn't just disappear.
JH
My thoughts:
Leaving someone hanging is a sick power trip. If you're never going to see a person again, you should let them know.
If you just need space, I say five days is the maximum you should go without communicating with anyone you want to kiss again. Booty Calls defy logic, so time limits don't count there.
Rush to Romance?
Met a guy on CL. Emailed a few times, he asked me out. He really seemed to know what he was looking for. We went out. Things got VERY physical. HE said he didn't want to see other people (before fooling around), and that he wanted to be exclusive (after fooling around) ON THIS FIRST DATE.
THEN HE DISAPPEARED!!!!
What's up with that?
J
Here are some thoughts:
1. He's obviously kind of mental or playing a very detailed game.
2. Sometimes guy emphasize how much they like you in order to get laid. But the after stuff seems like a head trip. It's fucked up, in my ethical world.
My conclusion is this guy is a bit psychotic, at least in his behavior toward you. I wouldn't waste another thought on him.
Pete
THEN HE DISAPPEARED!!!!
What's up with that?
J
Here are some thoughts:
1. He's obviously kind of mental or playing a very detailed game.
2. Sometimes guy emphasize how much they like you in order to get laid. But the after stuff seems like a head trip. It's fucked up, in my ethical world.
My conclusion is this guy is a bit psychotic, at least in his behavior toward you. I wouldn't waste another thought on him.
Pete
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